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Speak about a loaded topic that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Funny thing, affairs have been going on ever since millennium. Extramarital affairs can be burdened with troubles, cause sadness, and other problems. In addition you have to wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty thing, finances, age dissimilarity, spiritual education, remorse, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.

For the intention of this post I shall identify an affair as a long term, maybe decades long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, married man date.

Why do people have affairs? There are as many reasons as there are men seeking affairs. I am sure mostly though it is just the human nature, the need for affection, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and appreciated. Here are a few explanations I have run across.

Biologically we as human beings are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is enjoyable and exciting, and sex makes us escape the real world for a short period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Some people are able to switch the longing on and off, some are brilliant at controlling it and others are so-so at best. But we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the stimulation of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another human being, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the total romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they prevail over the taboos people has erected against married dating. For lots of individuals the yearnings will defeat their doubts and make them risk the anger of not only their family, but the public too. So why, what is the method?

Sex Addicts, perhaps some of us are. Sex is very good, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of physically motivated sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not wound your relatives or anyone else? You would need to lessen the hazard you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is advantageous to all, then good luck.

No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the major group, very big truly. There are many couples whose marriage is over, apart from they are happy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Also there are the children to consider. Your finances are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be jointly besides love and sex.

Physical reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them implementing the sex act, at least not with their spouse. An extra-marital affair sometimes solves the trouble while keeping the marriage undamaged.

Neglect, sadly this is a common reason I fear. One or the other, generally the male is sexually neglecting his female for a number of reasons. As a male I actually appreciate you guys neglecting your ladies and making them obtainable to us guys of romance, making them “milfs” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but malevolent.

Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Maybe its romance that is missing, could be it is a shortage of love, could be caring is disappeared, could be it is the intimacy, could be neglect. Could be we have just developed apart, our general concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my ages, is opposite of what you want. Could be I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that emotion that when I am with you, it just feels right.

The major reason people give is, they look for the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.

There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to escape, for financial gain, for retribution and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.